It only takes a few minutes to make a bad first impression.....

It is ashame that more folks don't pay attention to the first impression that they make with strangers. Whether it is by chat, email, a YAHOO! group post or in person it is very important to put your best foot forward.

When new people come into our chat, it is very clearly apparent to me which people I would like to meet in person and which people need a class in social behavior. Say "hello" when you enter the chat room. Ask about the weather, where someone lives, how was their weekend or anything else that says you are alive and interested in them. Lurking into the room and sitting waiting to be invited to chat is like a middle school dance. It isn't the way adults socialize.

Our Meet-n-Greets too are full of great folks who mingle and chat with others. But, there are also the few that sit there like a lump and expect the world to come to them. That's not the way life works.

If you think you are a shy person, then prepare yourself. Read a newspaper or magazine before attending the chat or the Meet-n-Greet. Be prepared to chat about the weather, the music that you like, movies you have seen or want to see, your favorite sports teams, or even your travel experiences. Try to avoid chatting about sex with strangers at first. Even though the people in the chat or the Meet-n-Greet are there because they are interested in "creative" sexual ideas, remember that sex is 95% from the brain. And most people, women especially, would like to get to know you first before sharing their fantasies or experiences. As I have said many times, if you can't entertain my brain for a few hours without talking about sex or swinging, you aren't getting to first base with me.

It is our hope that people who attend our chat or our Meet-n-Greet have a great experience and get to know many other people. It is not our responsibility however to have to handhold every newbie. We are all adults and it is your responsibility alone to learn to socialize as an adult.

Remember, that first five minutes you spend with someone in chat or at a Meet-n-Greet will be the way they will remember you for a long time. Use it wisely!

What does Hello mean in an IM or Chat room?

What does "hello" mean in a chat room?

To some guys it seems to mean "Hi, Please private message me cause I want to cyber with you until you cum."

So what does a friendly person do?
I am stuck either being rude and ignoring the newcomers, or sticking my neck out hoping that the latest newcomer is a polite person who understands English.

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We are happy to have you join us for sharing and communication. After spending 2 1/2 years chatting online before we met in person, Hoople and I had the beginnings of a connection where communication was key to our relationship. We hope that blogging will help us to open the paths of communication for you as well as invite new avenues of subjects for us to share with each other.

I can be very opinionated. Sometimes I have even been called names that I won't repeat because my opinions bother others. But, that's what is great about opinions. Everyone has one and it's OK not to agree. In a way opinions are very much like swinging. My preferences might not be yours, but that doesn't make either right or wrong.

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