Single Guys and Meet-n-Greets!

Why aren't there more single guys at the Meet-n-Greets? Many are complaining they can't meet women and couples to play with. They want us all to know how NICE and COURTEOUS and should be invited to our parties and get togethers, yet they won't show up at a Meet-n-Greet. Oh, they have many many excuses, "it is too far", "I have to work", "I am too shy with strangers", or the worst "I can't get away from my wife to go".

So, what are we to do?

1. Invite them to a party and those excuses would probably magically disappear.

2. Ignore them, since if they aren't willing to put in the effort to get to a Meet-n-Greet than what kind of effort are they going to put in to please a partner?

I choose #2!

Tips for Single guys and swinging

Size

I belong to a ladies only adult group at YAHOO! The discussion today was about men and their need to exploit their size. Or should I say, men who think that telling us their size will make us putty in their hands.

Well it was a general consensus that those men are completely out of it. Since 95% of sex is in the brain, telling me your size might feed 5% of my needs. What happens to the other 95%? They don't seem to care.

No reply at all?

Ever spend 10's of minutes (to hours) writing a swingers ad or a reply to one only to have nothing returned? We've had this happen too often, sometimes we reply to an ad a second time in thinking maybe the first one got lost. We feel it's kind of insensitive to say the least. We know that not all folks find anyone that replies a good playmate. We understand chemistry very well. Why can't they just hit <reply> type "no thanks" and then <send>???

More Newbie's guide to swinging advice.

Rough Sex = Sore Nipples

Why do men bite my nipples? Why do they pull them and twist as if they are trying to disengage a child proof cap from a medicine bottle? There are times that I have been left with such sore nipples that I couldn't even touch them myself for over a week.

I personally NEVER like it rough. I like soft, feathery touches and licks. But, even if I did want something else, it is always easier to start with soft and move forward. And if I say STOP or gentle please, LISTEN!

I am sure there are women who enjoy rough sex and pain. But, isn't it better to assume that a woman likes things gentle and soft and let her ask for more? Or ask her if she wants it rougher.

Diane

OK, So why don't I even want nice single guys at swing parties?

We go to many swing parties. Lately the predominance has been hotel parties. Unlike the swing clubs and private parties we have gone to, these parties usually allow a set amount of single men. These men have proven themselves to be polite gentlemen and their demeanor at these parties is nothing by stellar.

So what's the problem?

Well, since there aren't an even amount of women there are 2 problems for me.

First, inevitably, while I am enjoying one guy there is another poking, prodding or touching and trying to get in on the action for his pleasure. For a voyeur and even me sometimes, this is HOT. But, many times it destroys the moment of pleasure I was already having by being brought back to reality instead of in my far off brain of fantasy.

The other reason would apply to bi women only. Since there are so many men to find their pleasure and trying to get off, the bi women that are at these parties really can't pay attention to each other. I have had 2 experiences where another woman and myself were exploring each other and within minutes there were 3 purple one eyed monsters poking at our mouths and hands.

I am not sure what the solution is. Perhaps one of the beds in each room should be reserved for bi-women. Or maybe there should be a time set up for the women only. Or perhaps I need to just become more forceful and say "hey, I just want to be with her right now, can you leave us alone for a bit?"

Anyone have thoughts on this?

Let me entertain you, or why should I?

Today's chip on my shoulder is aimed at the men who think I am their own private (or public) entertainment.

I can give you many anecdotes, but I will limit it to one. I log into JMeeting and I am barraged by men who tell me to move this way, or take this piece of clothing off. I tell them I will when I am ready, please don't direct.

Some stop, but many continue with the directing. Some have told me directly, but I need to see your tits to get off. This also happens in IM's and in person at swing parties sometimes.

When we are at a swing party it has been only the single men that do this. There aren't enough women to satisfy them all at once, so the lurk and start giving directions of asking for special views.

Well, let me tell you directly: I am not there for YOUR entertainment. I am there for my own pleasure. I am not interested in getting YOU off, I am interested in my OWN pleasure. If watching my own pleasure pleases you, then we are both happy. But, if you beg and plead for selfish things, you will get NOTHING from me but a good bye.

Why aren't there more single guys at Meet-n-Greets?

Why aren't there more single guys at the Meet-n-Greets?
Many are complaining they can't meet women and couples to play with. They want us all to know how NICE and COURTEOUS and should be invited to our parties and get togethers, yet they won't show up at a Meet-n-Greet.
Oh, they have many many excuses, "it is too far", "I have to work", "I am too shy with strangers", or the worst "I can't get away from my wife to go".

So, what are we to do?
1. Invite them to a party and those excuses would probably magically disappear.
2. Ignore them, since if they aren't willing to put in the effort to get to a Meet-n-Greet than what kind of effort are they going to put in to please a partner?