OK, So why don't I even want nice single guys at swing parties?

We go to many swing parties. Lately the predominance has been hotel parties. Unlike the swing clubs and private parties we have gone to, these parties usually allow a set amount of single men. These men have proven themselves to be polite gentlemen and their demeanor at these parties is nothing by stellar.

So what's the problem?

Well, since there aren't an even amount of women there are 2 problems for me.

First, inevitably, while I am enjoying one guy there is another poking, prodding or touching and trying to get in on the action for his pleasure. For a voyeur and even me sometimes, this is HOT. But, many times it destroys the moment of pleasure I was already having by being brought back to reality instead of in my far off brain of fantasy.

The other reason would apply to bi women only. Since there are so many men to find their pleasure and trying to get off, the bi women that are at these parties really can't pay attention to each other. I have had 2 experiences where another woman and myself were exploring each other and within minutes there were 3 purple one eyed monsters poking at our mouths and hands.

I am not sure what the solution is. Perhaps one of the beds in each room should be reserved for bi-women. Or maybe there should be a time set up for the women only. Or perhaps I need to just become more forceful and say "hey, I just want to be with her right now, can you leave us alone for a bit?"

Anyone have thoughts on this?